ISTJ

the responsible realist

ISTJ type diamond i s t j

ISTJs and relationships

ISTJs are typically drawn to more traditional types of relationships, and they appreciate having a solid foundation of reliable people in their lives. Others appreciate them because they are considerate, dependable, and reliable, especially during difficult times.

Conflict

Conflict

ISTJs don’t generally shy away from conflict, as they see it as simply a part of life. Rather than spending a lot of time talking about their feelings, ISTJs will attempt to resolve a conflict so that both parties can move on with their lives.

If conflicts arise, ISTJs can minimize them by:

  • Addressing the conflict directly but taking care to not come across as cold or overly critical. They need to ensure that the other person feels heard.
  • Attempting to see the other side. While many ISTJs have a hard time putting themselves in the shoes of a person with different beliefs, it’s important when trying to foster a good relationship.
  • Not focusing too much on similar conflicts from the past. While it’s important to learn lessons from past experiences, drawing too many similarities may not be accurate.

ISTJ and love

ISTJs are somewhat traditional when it comes to love, and they’re often looking toward the future with anyone they date seriously. They value partnerships as important aspects of a fulfilling life, and they will be loyal and dedicated to their significant other.

ISTJs are consistent and direct about their feelings, and they expect the same fair treatment in return.

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ISTJ and parenting

Knowing your MBTI® personality type gives you a distinct advantage when it comes to raising your children. Knowing about your communication habits, stress triggers, values, and how your personality is similar or different from your children makes the whole parenting process easier.

ISTJ parents value traditional parent-child relationships and expect their children to treat them with respect. But they are caring and supportive too, and probably use the same parenting techniques that their own parents used.

An ISTJ parent likely feels stressed when their children act with disrespect or embarrass them in front of other people.

If they think their child’s preferences are similar to their own (especially when it comes to the Sensing and Thinking preferences), they can better understand how their child takes in information and makes decisions – both important in terms of how parents communicate.

If an ISTJ thinks their child’s preferences are different than theirs (especially if they have an Intuition or Feeling preference), they’ll have the knowhow to change their communication and parenting style to better suit those preferences. Essentially, parents can “speak their child’s language”.

By integrating awareness of differences into family life, the whole family will benefit from the insights, just as individuals benefit from turning personality knowledge into action.

Friendship

ISTJ and friendship

ISTJs enjoy socializing with a trusted group of friends, and they often maintain the same friends for much of their lives. They find comfort in surrounding themselves with people who have similar lifestyles and who they’ve known for a long time.

As friends, ISTJs always keep their promises, stick to the plans, and show up when the other person needs them.