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INTPs and relationships

At first, INTPs may seem hard to read and disinterested in friendship or romantic relationships. Because they often exist in their own heads, as Introverted Thinking types, INTPs can notice other people long before other people notice them. They often take note of people they want to get to know, and they usually only try get to know another person if they think they’ll have something in common.



INTPs tend to avoid conflict as much as possible. They often think it’s more trouble than it’s worth to work out an issue, so they’ll let it go and just hope that it works out on its own.

While this easygoing attitude can occasionally work in smaller conflicts, it could cause conflicts to build into larger issues. When they finally decide to attempt to work out an issue, INTPs take an approach that is logical, measured, and calm.

If conflicts arise, INTPs can minimize them by:

  • Talking things out at the start. Since many other people like to work out their conflicts as they happen, it’s best to simply talk things through as they arise. This avoids issues down the line.
  • Trying not to talk down to the other person. Instead of becoming too logical, attempt to hear the other person’s feelings and share some feelings of your own. INTPs can become cold and aloof in uncomfortable emotional situations, so you’ll need to stay engaged to work out these types of conflicts.

INTP and love

INTPs look for partners who can match them intellectually and who don’t bring drama or extreme emotions to the relationship. They are measured, analytical people, and while they appreciate people with different interests, they likely wouldn’t mesh well with an extremely opposing personality.

In a relationship, INTPs are looking for someone to debate with, laugh with, and who can keep them intellectually stimulated. While they may seem a bit detached at times, INTPs are dedicated partners who value their relationships.

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INTP and parenting

Knowing your MBTI® personality type gives you a distinct advantage when it comes to raising your children. Understanding your communication habits, stress triggers, values, and how your personality is similar or different from your children makes the whole parenting process easier.

INTP parents like to solve problems for their children and teach them how to solve their own problems, too. They tend to stay calm and minimize outbursts, and like to teach children the importance of education and curiosity.

As a parent, INTPs likely feel stressed when their children behave illogically, throw tantrums, or otherwise cause extreme disturbances. Knowing their own stress triggers is especially important for parents because they need to be able to care for themselves to best care for their children.

If parents think their child’s preferences are similar to their own (especially when it comes to the Intuition and Thinking preferences), they can better understand how their child takes in information and makes decisions – both very important in terms of how parents communicate.

If an INTP type thinks their child’s preferences are different than theirs (especially if they have a Sensing or Feeling preference), they’ll have the know how to change communication and parenting style to better suit those preferences. Parents can “speak their child’s language”.

By integrating awareness of differences into family life, the whole family will benefit from the insights, just as individuals benefit from turning personality knowledge into action.


INTP and friendship

INTPs have few close friends and rarely feel they need to expand their social circle. They like to have intellectual debates with the people they’re friends with, and they prefer people with differing opinions who won’t get upset or offended easily.

While they don’t typically share much about their feelings, INTPs are considerate and kind people who prefer to avoid conflicts with friends.