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ENTJs and relationships

People with ENTJ preferences are stimulated by interesting conversation and intellectual debate with their friends, family members, and romantic partners, They tend to treat the people they care about fairly and directly. They don’t tend to be highly emotional, so they probably won’t express their feelings all the time.

ENTJs feel most confident when they’re able to make a clear decision. When they choose a friend or partner, they’re showing that person how important they are.


ENTJs and conflict

ENTJs may run into conflict if they are too direct or disregard other people’s feelings when they’re communicating their thoughts or opinions.

In a conflict, ENTJs will likely want to find a quick, clear-cut, and logical resolution. They’re often good at keeping things objective and resolving issues with fairness, but may need to remind themselves to listen to both sides of an argument.

If you have ENTJ preferences, you can minimize conflict in your relationships by:

  • Listening carefully to the other person’s point of view before you jump to a resolution. This may help you to solve the underlying problem, instead of simply ending the conflict.
  • Reminding yourself that other people’s emotions are valid. Take care that you don’t just combat emotions with facts and figures.
  • Setting aside your drive to succeed. Although it may not come naturally, take some time to consider the more human, nuanced aspects of the relationship before you try to move forward.

ENTJs and love

ENTJs tend to value romantic partners who are logical and kind above all else. Because of their analytical nature, they’re likely to search for someone who can make them feel peaceful and intellectually stimulated.

Although ENTJs may struggle to understand extreme emotions in others, they generally want to take care of their partners. They tend to do best in relationships with partners who balance their goal-oriented lifestyle.

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ENTJs and parenting

The MBTI® framework can be very helpful when it comes to raising children. Knowledge of your own communication habits, stress triggers, and preferences often makes parenting easier. By integrating an awareness of differences into family life, the whole family can benefit from these insights.

People with ENTJ preferences tend to take a calm and pragmatic approach to parenting. They guide their children with logic and intellect, encouraging them to use sound reasoning when making decisions. They often foster both creativity and curiosity in children, which they see as preparing them to excel later in life.

As parents, ENTJs may find it stressful to handle the typically extreme emotions of children.

If you have ENTJ preferences and you think your child shares your Intuition and Thinking preferences, this can help you to understand how your child takes in information and makes decisions—both of which are important for how you communicate as a parent. If you think your child’s preferences are different than yours, self-awareness will help you to change your communication and parenting style to better suit those preferences.


ENTJs and friendship

As friends, ENTJs are personable and engaged. They often bond with others over shared interests and hobbies.

They tend to value friends who avoid drama, but they’re more than happy to offer stimulating conversation and debate. When it comes to making plans or organizing trips, they’re usually the logical planners.

While they’re unlikely to offer emotional comfort in a crisis, ENTJs are quick to jump in and solve problems to help a friend in need.