the decisive strategist

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ENTJs and relationships

With friends, family members or romantic partners, ENTJs are stimulated by interesting conversation and intellectual debate. Treating the people they care about with fairness and directness is what matters to them, though they’re not highly emotional people who express their feelings all the time.

ENTJs feel best when they can make a clear decision. When they do this in a relationship, by choosing a friend or partner, it really shows the other person that they’re important.



Because of their pragmatic nature, ENTJs can run into conflict if they are too direct and disregard others’ feelings when communicating their thoughts or opinions. They might want to quickly find a clear-cut, logical resolution to a conflict, but in many personal relationships, that’s not always possible. ENTJs are good at keeping things objective and resolving issues with fairness, but could improve their skills in listening to both sides of an argument.

If conflicts arise, ENTJs can minimize them by:

  • Listening to the other person’s point of view. Doing this before quickly jumping to a resolution helps solve the actual problem, rather than just squash the conflict.
  • Seeing others’ emotions as valid. Don’t just combat them with facts and figures.
  • Setting aside the desire for success. Instead, take the time to consider the more human, nuanced aspects of relationships.

ENTJ and love

In love, ENTJs value a partner who is logical and kind above all else. Because of their analytical nature, they likely search for someone who can make them feel peaceful and intellectually stimulated.

Though ENTJs struggle to understand extreme emotions, they want to take care of their partners. They probably do best with a partner with more measured emotions who can balance their goal-oriented lifestyle.

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ENTJ and parenting

Knowing your MBTI® personality type gives you a distinct advantage when it comes to raising your children. Understanding your communication habits, stress triggers, values, and how your personality is similar or different from your children helps make the whole parenting process easier.

A parent with ENTJ preferences is pragmatic and calm, and guides children with logic and intellect. They likely encourage their children to use sound reasoning when making decisions and may foster creativity and curiosity in children to prepare them to excel in life.

As a parent, ENTJs will most likely feel stressed from handling the extreme emotions that children typically display. Knowing stress triggers is important, because parents need to be able to care for themselves so they can best care for their children.

If an ENTP thinks their child’s preferences are similar to their own (especially when it comes to the Intuition and Thinking preferences), they can better understand how their child takes in information and makes decisions – both very important in terms of how parents communicate.

If an ENTJ parent thinks their child’s preferences are different (especially if they have a Sensing or Feeling preference), they’ll have the knowhow to change their communication and parenting style to better suit their child’s preferences.

Parents can “speak their child’s language”. By integrating awareness of differences into family life, the whole family benefits from the insights, just as individuals benefit from turning personality knowledge into action.


ENTJ and friendship

As friends, ENTJs are personable and engaged, and they often bond with others over shared interests and hobbies. They are typically the logical planners when it comes to making plans or organizing trips.

And while they aren’t the types to offer emotional comfort in a crisis, ENTJs are quick to jump in with problem solving to help a friend in need. If you’re an ENTJ, you’re probably a loyal friend who offers stimulating conversation and debate, and values people who avoid drama.