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ISFPs and relationships

ISFPs appreciate their individual freedom and having time to work on personal projects and hobbies. They like to balance their friendships and romantic relationships with this type of alone time.

They’re very caring and kind to the people in their lives, and while they prefer to keep to themselves, they often attract interest from others because of their calm and easygoing nature.



ISFPs are highly observant. They very quickly pick up on changes in others’ behavior or the harmony of a group. This allows them to spot potential conflict before it arises, but it can also make them paranoid that others are angrier than they are.

This intuition is a strange combination with ISFPs’ conflict avoidance. They often know that a conflict is about to happen, but don’t know how to address it.

If conflicts arise, ISFPs can minimize them by:

  • Taking time to evaluate how much of the conflict is real and how much is in the mind. Because they likely don’t know until they ask, ISFPs may need to simply confront the other person to avoid worry.
  • Standing up for themselves. Sometimes, ISFPs can make the other person angrier by getting too upset or emotional during a conflict, which makes others feel bad. Better to create a space where others can express their true feelings and ISFPs can share theirs in return.
  • Being there for the people involved. ISFPs often know just what others need. If they see a conflict on their team or group of friends that they’re not involved in, they’re likely just the person to help resolve it.

ISFP and love

ISFPs take some time before they open up to others. This means they’ll need the other person to express direct interest in their lives, thoughts, and hidden talents before trusting them enough to date. Once they’re in a relationship, ISFPs are caring and easygoing partners who simply want to be happy with their significant other.

ISFPs dislike being tied to a schedule or giving up their freedoms, but they’ll offer the same generosity to their partner. With two highly independent people, a relationship with an ISFP can be mutually supportive and loving.

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ISFP and parenting

Knowing your MBTI® personality type gives you a distinct advantage when it comes to raising your children. Understanding communication habits, stress triggers, values, and how your personality is similar or different from your children makes the whole parenting process easier.

A parent with ISFP preferences encourages their children to be their true, authentic selves. ISFPs are open-minded and supportive parents, and their fun and easygoing nature helps them talk to their children on their level.

As a parent, an ISFP will likely feel stressed when they don’t understand their child’s needs or when their child says something hurtful out of anger.

If an ISFP thinks their child’s preferences are similar to their own (especially when it comes to the Sensing and Feeling preferences), they can better understand how their child takes in information and makes decisions – both very important in terms of communication as a parent.

If an ISFP thinks their child’s preferences are different than theirs (especially if the child has an Intuition or Thinking preference), they’ll have the knowhow to change communication style and parenting to better suit their preferences. Essentially, parents can “speak their child’s language”.

By integrating awareness of differences into the family’s life, the whole family will benefit from the insights, just as individuals benefit from turning personality knowledge into action.


ISFP and friendship

ISFPs are thoughtful and dedicated friends who often put others’ needs before their own. They like to have fun and they can be very spontaneous, which makes for an exciting and supportive friendship.

However, ISFPs require a lot of freedom and alone time. If friends can’t make plans on the fly or respect the ISFP’s easygoing nature, it can be a difficult relationship.